Growing up, I used to think everyone had a breakfast room in
their house. We did. This doesn’t mean it was a massive
mansion. It was your standard four
bedroom detached house in Surrey. There
was a dining room, but this was for best.
We sat in there on Christmas and select special occasions. The breakfast room was a smaller affair right
next to the kitchen, with a table and chairs for the four of us. This is where we ate not only breakfast, but
also lunch, dinner and any other snacks in between (so I can only apologise for
the misleading name). How does this
relate to Friends? Well, it’s where I first came across this
programme in 1995.
You might have guessed I come from TV-viewing stock. My dad can watch TV for hours. At one point there was a TV in the garage so
he didn’t miss old films while working on the car. Because he couldn’t get through a meal
without telly, we of course had a small set affixed to the wall in the hallowed
breakfast room. I don’t think I ever had
tea without Neighbours AND Home & Away as an
accompaniment. I’m not sure why this
meal lasted an hour. As I came on for
ten years old, I started to want to watch my own shows, and this meant leaving
the comfy sofas of the lounge where my parents watched things that mums and
dads like to watch. And so, perched on
one of the uncomfortable wooden chairs in the breakfast room, I came across my
first episode of Friends one Friday evening while being daring and watching Channel 4.
Series 2, episode 1 opens with Phoebe recapping the latest
in the star-crossed saga of Ross and Rachel: Ross has returned from China with
Julie (Julie!) just as Rachel has realised he loves her. I was hooked.
I had never heard people speak like this before. They said cool things like “Hey” rather than “Hello”
and peppered their sentences with “Like” which was brand new at the time and hadn’t
yet ruined the ability to articulate of a generation of British school
kids. They were young, but they didn’t need
grown-ups. There was a sofa in their
coffeehouse and, curiously, nobody else ever sat in it but them.
I have since seen all 236 episodes several times. I think everyone has. Twenty-two years after first meeting the
Friends, I still end up watching around one and a half episodes a day. It’s not on purpose, but it’s also something
I allow to happen. And this is a show
whose last episode aired thirteen years ago.
For a while, I couldn’t bring myself to sit through any of the constant
repeats on e4, so I would watch anything but Friends. It was too soon. If it came on by accident, I had to get the
channel switched over before the claps at the beginning of the opening
credits. But now, Comedy Central is our
default channel when the telly boots up and episode upon episode of Friends is
lined up to catch young professionals getting in from work who want to be
reminded of when they were a bit younger and less professional. Of course, as a channel, its new home comes
with an onslaught of promotional trailers for The Middle and Impractical Jokers (stop trying
to make Impractical Jokers happen), but that can be forgiven, as it’s these old
episodes that are so comforting after a day in the office.
Some jokes have dated.
Some storylines are from a distant age before mobile phones and the internet. Some hairstyles and wardrobe choices seem
unfathomable in 2017. But I still
laugh. The better I know a scene and the
more I know what’s coming next, the more I laugh. I forgive punchlines I would never tolerate
from a new show made in this day and age.
But this is because Friends practically defines the modern sitcom. Ross even had a pet monkey in earlier
series. Could anything be any more
sitcom?
So here we are, on an eternal cycle through all ten
seasons. Each time we go back to series
one, the charm starts all over again. I’m
even now measuring my life in rotations of the entire Friends canon. And by life, I mean crushing adult
disappointment at how much time I spend watching TV. My fear is that this behaviour will never
end. I will become my parents, who spent
my childhood indulging themselves with repeats of Dad’s Army, Only Fools And Horses, Open All Hours and Are You Being Served? Over time, their comments went from “Oh, what
was he in last?” to “Oh, course, he’s dead now” – do I want to go through the same
thing with the cast of Friends?
Just as I know where I was for the first episode I ever saw,
I also know exactly where I was when the final episode of series 10 aired in
the UK. It was summer 2004 and I was in
the first year of university. I needed
to find someone with a TV in their room, as did the rest of the freshers. We piled in to a tiny dorm, pressed our faces
to one of the tiny television sets we used to watch in those days and prepared
ourselves for the end. The girls
cried. The boys pretended they didn’t want
to cry. Life as the Friends knew it was
changing, and so was a part of our lives.
We said goodbye to a show that had accompanied us for the best part of
ten years. With so many new shows
available to us, the fact that I have welcomed Friends back is testament to the
quality of not only its comedy, but its relatability. That breakfast room might be in a house that
belongs to a different family now, but Friends will always be my friends.